Children are going to react differently to the idea of divorce based on age and maturity, but as a parent, it’s going to be your responsibility to make sure your child understands what to expect and how they are expected to act.
The good news is that there are some methods you can use to minimize the impact of divorce on your children. By using these tips, your children can come out on the other side of the divorce more comfortably and confidently.
1. Talk to your children about what to expect early in the divorce.
Both you and your spouse should talk to your children about what to expect during a divorce. This can be anything from a short conversation plainly explaining that mom and dad won’t live together but that there will be two homes for the children to having a deeper conversation with older children.
2. Set aside time for your kids.
It is easy to get caught up in divorce and to struggle with taking care of yourself and your children. Make sure you set aside time during visits or custody days so that you and your child can make positive memories together. Whether it’s making time for new hobbies or allowing your child time to discuss their concerns, this time together is essential.
3. Give back control when you can.
When the whole world is changing, a little bit of control over their situation can help your kids cope. Let your child pick new toys for a new home or have a say in the color of paint on a new bedroom’s walls. Doing so will give them something positive to do during the divorce.
These tips will help your children adjust and move forward with you during the divorce. Be confident, respectful and honest, and that will help them, too.